Episode 3: Sexual Addiction History and The 30 Task Recovery Model

In this podcast, counselor and author John Sternfels will discuss sexual addiction, also known as hypersexuality or compulsive sexual behavior, and the 30-Task model of recovery.

"Like an alcoholic unable to stop drinking, sexual addicts are unable to stop their self-destructive sexual behavior. Family breakups, financial disasters, loss of jobs, and risk to life are the painful themes of their stories."

Sex addicts come from all walks of life - they may be ministers, physicians, homemakers, factory workers, salespersons, secretaries, clerks, accountants, therapists, dentists, politicians, or executives, to name just a few examples. Most were abused as children - sexually, physically, and emotionally. The majority grew up in families in which addiction already flourished, including alcoholism, compulsive eating, and compulsive gambling. 

Most grapple with other addictions as well, but they find sex addiction the most difficult to stop. Much hope nevertheless exists for these people with an addiction and their families. Sex addicts have shown an ability to transform a life of self-destruction into a life of self-care, a life in chaos and despair into one of confidence and peace."  - Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D. Author of Out of the Shadows 

Furthermore, sexual addiction is defined as any sexually related, compulsive behavior that interferes with everyday living and causes severe stress on family, friends, loved ones, and one's work environment. Sexual addiction has been called sexual dependency and sexual compulsivity. 

By any name, it is a compulsive behavior that completely dominates the addict's life. Sexual addicts make sex a priority more important than family, friends, and work. Sex becomes the organizing principle of addict's lives. They are willing to sacrifice what they cherish most to preserve and continue their unhealthy behavior.

Dr. Patrick Carnes estimates three to six percent of the population is facing sexual addiction. It remains unclear whether one gender has a higher incidence of sexual addiction than the other. Research by Dr. Carnes shows that approximately 20 - 25% of all patients who seek help for sexual dependency are women. 

(This same male-female ratio is found among those recovering from alcohol addiction, drug addiction, and pathological gambling.)

Treatment for individuals struggling with problematic sexual behaviors may involve psychotherapy, support groups, and sometimes medication. - Source: SexHelp.com

John Sternfels, LPC, NCC, CSAT, CMAT, CCPS, C-SASI
Owner/Clinical Director of NorthPoint Professional Counseling
Counselor and Author

Books Available:
A Partner's Guide To Truth & Healing
Behind The Smile: Healing From Abuse, Trauma, and Betrayal.
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