Episode 12: Self Image vs Self Definition

In this episode, Patrick Eiler's LPC, CSAT talks about self-image and self-definition.
Self-image and self-definition are two facets of identity that significantly shape how individuals perceive themselves and interact with the world around them. While they are interconnected, they represent distinct aspects of one's self-concept.

Self-image relates to how individuals perceive themselves in relation to others and the external world. It encompasses one's appearance, social roles, status, and reputation. Societal norms, cultural expectations, and interpersonal interactions influence self-image. It can be shaped by feedback from others, societal stereotypes, and media representations. While self-image is a part of self-concept, it may not always align with an individual's true self-definition.

On the other hand, self-definition refers to the process through which individuals define who they are, their values, beliefs, and the roles they play in society. It encompasses a deeper understanding of one's intrinsic qualities, aspirations, and purpose in life. This process often involves introspection, reflection, and exploration of personal identity. Self-definition is dynamic and can evolve as individuals experience personal growth, encounter new challenges, and undergo transformative life events.

Discrepancies between self-image and self-definition can lead to inner conflicts and psychological distress. For example, one's self-image may be negatively influenced by criticism or societal pressures to conform to certain standards of success or beauty. 

Achieving congruence between self-image and self-definition is essential for holistic well-being and self-acceptance. This involves cultivating self-awareness, practicing self-compassion, and aligning one's actions with their authentic values and beliefs. It also requires challenging societal norms and embracing individuality without seeking validation from external sources.

John Sternfels, LPC, NCC, CSAT, CMAT, CCPS, C-SASI
Owner/Clinical Director of NorthPoint Professional Counseling
Counselor and Author

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